Dogs live in the world of positive and negative energy. We as their owners, impact them 24/7. When we are happy, they love all over us. When we are sad, they are there by our side. When we are angry, they walk away from us.
As a dog trainer and life coach, I have noticed that the dogs also take on our issues. What do I mean by that? A couple one day, I worked with, whose lab was cautious around people but loved dogs. The owner had taken her to work with him for months as a puppy and noticed that it took her weeks to warm up to his work colleagues. I asked him, how are you with people, he replied, cautious. He had been training his dog through his own issues of trusting people.
Separation Anxiety is very common in dogs. Working with a client whose dog suffered with this, she realized as we kept talking, that she still had an issue with being a child and her parents leaving her. Now her dog was mirroring this issue.
Another lady whose dog would snap in fear if she was feeling trapped. Yes, you guessed it, she herself feels trapped with certain people and situations in her life and she snaps at people when she feels this way.
Remember where you put your negative energy, is where the dog is going to mirror. I had a client, whose dog would pee in her husband’s office, chew on his chair. She could not understand why. After working with her for about an hour, I asked her, how is your relationship with your husband. She replies, I want a divorce. So the dog is being negative with anything her husband has, because she is.
Dogs come into our life to heal us of what we are not willing to heal ourselves of. Quote by Kevin Behan, author of the book, Your Dog Is Your Mirror.
I hear people saying, the dog chose me. I said this, with Pebbles my Pitbull. I was volunteering at the shelter and busy walking dogs. Twice I walked past the kennel where she was and she was sitting so square, just looking at me, every time I went past. It prompted me to take her out and I knew I needed to adopt her. She was 7 months old with bad kennel cough. She joined my pack of 3 dogs and little did I know she was going to mirror my fear of trust with myself and others around me. She was with me for 6 years and suddenly 3 weeks ago, became ill and in 24 hours, had passed away. She is my angel on letting me see how to trust and for this, my life is so richer.
Do you have a dog, who is mirroring you? Release them and yourself by letting go of the issue. We can make more impact on the health and wellbeing of our dog, than we realize.
I believe that walking with your dog is team work. That you are on the walk together for exercise and stimulation. We check out the cars going by, look at peoples yards, what people have done to the houses etc. Dogs are checking out what dogs live in the neighborhood by smelling their scent, what wildlife was here last night, listen to the dogs barking in the area, what the barking means etc.
So first, not being on the phone when walking with your dog. Enjoy the experiences together. Be a team.
Yesterday, within 24 hours of showing signs of not feeling well. Pebbles went to the rainbow bridge. So sudden, such a loss. She was adopted at 7 months old from the local animal control shelter. I was volunteering that day, went past her kennel to get another dog to take out for exercise and she was sitting so nicely looking at me as I passed. Later I went to take another dog out from the back of the kennels and there she was again sitting nicely looking at me. I decided to take her out before I finished my volunteering and was taken by her personality, she was coughing with kennel cough and had been there for 3 weeks already. The following day, I adopted her, she came and joined my 3 other dogs. It wasn't until a few weeks later, her fear aggression started to show up, this is when she taught me how to trust myself, as a person and as a dog trainer. The next 6 years, she became the best teacher I could have ever asked for. She taught me how to just relax and let the small stuff, just disappear. She taught me how to be the best I could be for everyone I came across in my life, personally and as a dog trainer. She holds a special place in my heart and always will. Pebbles you are so missed. You came into my life for a reason.
Some people ask me, do you think my dog would protect me, if necessary?
Well yesterday walking Misha and Snickers in the neighborhood, suddenly I hear barking behind me and there are 2 loose dogs. Both large and running towards us. I tell them to go away in a stern voice and it is not making any difference. Suddenly Snickers, such a loveable never shown any aggression toward dogs, gets out of her collar and barks and snaps at the dogs sending them on their way. If a dog can sense you need help, it will protect.